Rapport

From The Graham English Wiki

  • How do you build rapport?
    • By taking a second position and understanding from their point of view.
    • By taking a genuine interest in another person.
    • By being curious about who they are and how they think.
  • Pacing and leading
    • Pacing is when you enter the other person's model of the world on their terms. It is exactly like walking beside them at the same pace.
    • Pacing is the equivalent of understanding the present state in order to build a more appropriate and empowering desired state.
    • Leading is when you use the influence that you have built up from pacing.