This technique creates the deep personal congruence that leads to enthusiasm, charm and personal power.

Rapport with Self

Calibration Exercise

1. Think of a time when you were in rapport with yourself, in deep and full agreement. See what you saw and hear what you heard. Experience it again, fully, then notice your feelings. Memorize them.

2. Clear your mind.

3. Think of a time you were deeply conflicted, out of rapport with yourself. See what you saw and hear what you heard, externally and internally at that time. Experience it again, fully.

4. After you shake off that state, contrast the two states. What is different internally, pictures, sounds, feelings? What is different externally, posture, breathing, responses from others?

Developing Rapport with Yourself

• Making it a priority goal
• Communicating respectfully with yourself
• Aligning with your higher values
• Associating good feeling with yourself

In order to build a positive relationship with yourself:

1. Set a Goal.

What is your mission or purpose?

2. Build Rapport.

Use a pleasant tone of voice when you talk to yourself.

Align with that internal voice.

Commit your actions to align with your values.

3. Reward Yourself.

Do nice things for yourself.

Indulge yourself in personal treats that are really important to you.

NLP Patterns