- Identify the problem situation or negotiation.
- Associate into your memory of the situation. Take first position - your own viewpoint. Make an inventory of the present state in all representational systems.
What do you see?
Where are you looking from?
What do you hear?
Whose voices do you hear and where do these voices come from?
What feelings do you have?
What are you mostly aware of?
- Align third position.
Imagine yourself in third position to the problem situation. See yourself and the other people from the outside.
When you take this position, make sure that you are equidistant from yourself and the other people so you can get a good view of everyone. Third position does not "take sides".
- In this position make sure you:
observe from eye level
hear your own voice and the other person's voice coming from where you see them
feel your voice coming from your throat area, not being "disembodied"
move any feelings that are not resourceful third position feelings to where they belong (probably first position)
feel fully balanced on your feet
How does this change your experience?
Remember this balanced and resourceful third position. Anchor it so that you are able to return to it easily.
- Align first position.
Now imagine yourself in first position in the problem situation.
Check all your representational systems.
Look out through your own eyes.
Hear through your own ears.
Feel your own voice coming from the throat area.
Move any feelings that belong to second position to the right place.
What changes when you do this?
- Revisit third position and notice any further changes.
- Finish in first position.
- Future pace and generalize to other problematic situations.
How might an unbalanced first or third position have contributed to other difficulties?
What will be different now?
Make sure that whenever you review a situation from third position you use the anchor you established for a balanced resourceful third position.
