- Identify a time when you were congruent, when you really wanted an outcome and were committed to it. This does not have to be a significant event, it could be a small example from everyday life, for example when you wanted to watch a film.
- As you feel that state of congruence, do an internal inventory. Make a note of your pictures, internal sounds and feelings and their important submodalities. Pay particular attention to the tone of any internal voice and the location and pressure of the kinesthetic sensations.
- Pick two more examples of congruence from your past and repeat the inventory.
- Review your inventories of all three experiences. What do they have in common?
- The location of the feeling?
- The tone of the internal voice?
- The quality of the picture?
- When you know what quality these three experiences have in common, try to duplicate exactly that signal without accessing any state of congruence or going back into the memories. Try to make it happen. If you can, then it is not an unconscious signal and is no use - it can be forged by the conscious mind. You need to pick another signal from your congruent experiences. When you have a visual, auditory or kinesthetic signal that you can not consciously manufacture, this is your congruence signal.
- Incongruence Signal
Find your incongruence signal in the same way.
